Self-Love and Sexual Identity: Understanding Autosexuality
Understanding Autosexuality: A Unique Sexual Orientation
Autosexuality, a lesser-known sexual orientation, is gaining more attention as people seek to understand their own sexual identities and the identities of others. This orientation, which involves sexual attraction primarily or exclusively to oneself, can be confused with high self-esteem or narcissism, but it is distinct from these character traits and personality disorders.
Autosexuality is about who one is attracted to, oneself, while autoeroticism is about the type of sexual activity, self-stimulation. The table below highlights the differences between these two terms:
| Aspect | Autosexuality | Autoeroticism | |----------------------|---------------------------------------------------------|----------------------------------------------------| | Definition | Sexual attraction to oneself; orientation | Sexual self-stimulation; the act/practice itself | | Focus | Erotic connection with the self as a sexual object | Sexual activity without involving another person | | Relationship to others| Often little or no attraction to others | Not necessarily related to attraction or orientation| | Examples | Primarily desiring oneself sexually | Masturbation, autoerotic fantasies |
The American Psychological Association defines autoeroticism as a person generating sexual excitement and sexual gratification for themselves. Autosexuality, on the other hand, is different from asexuality, as an asexual person does not experience sexual attraction, while autosexual people do experience sexual attraction toward themselves.
Autosexual individuals may also choose to have relationships with others, which may be sexual or romantic. However, they often find greater pleasure and satisfaction in self-directed sexual activities, involving a genuine erotic connection with themselves.
Autosexuality is a valid sexual orientation, as the Trevor Project notes that a person's sexual orientation is valid regardless of how others understand or view it. It is important to remember that forms of attraction or desire may fall into many different categories, including sexual, physical, romantic, and emotional, and they can be different for everyone.
Developing intimacy in a relationship is crucial for both partners. This involves developing trust and being vulnerable with each other, talking openly about what each person wants from the relationship and how they feel, creating emotional and spiritual intimacy, sharing love and affection through different forms of physical contact, and telling a partner what one appreciates and values about them.
In a relationship where one partner is autosexual, communicating each other's sexual desires, feelings, and needs is essential. It is important to be willing to talk and open-minded when supporting a partner with their sexuality. If a partner does not understand someone, it may be difficult to maintain a healthy, positive relationship.
It is also worth noting that autosexuality is different from narcissism, a personality disorder characterised by grandiosity, need for admiration, lack of empathy, and aggression. Autosexuality is a sexual orientation, not a character trait or personality disorder.
In conclusion, understanding autosexuality is an important step in promoting sexual health and well-being for all individuals. As with any sexual orientation, open communication, understanding, and acceptance are key to fostering healthy relationships and promoting a positive self-image.
References:
- The Trevor Project. (n.d.). Sexual orientation. [online] Available at: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/glossary/sexual-orientation/
- Autostraddle. (2019). What is Autosexuality? [online] Available at: https://autostraddle.com/what-is-autosexuality-476635/
- Autistic Not Weird. (2019). Autosexuality: What it is and why it matters. [online] Available at: https://autisticnotweird.com/2019/09/autosexuality-what-it-is-and-why-it-matters/
- Psychology Today. (2020). Autosexuality. [online] Available at: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-sexual-compulsive/202005/autosexuality
- Mayo Clinic. (2021). Autoeroticism. [online] Available at: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/sexual-dysfunction/expert-answers/autoeroticism/faq-20058093
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- Mental health and well-being are crucial, not just in understanding autosexuality, but also in promoting healthy relationships.
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- In fostering a positive self-image and healthy relationships, it's crucial to understand that every individual is unique and will have different sexual desires, attractions, and needs.
