Coping Strategies for Daughters After the Death of a Mother
Losing a mother is an incredibly difficult experience, and it's essential to understand that everyone's journey with grief is unique. According to various studies, women may experience a more intense grief response and find it harder to adjust to the loss of a parent compared to men.
Research shows that grief can have profound effects on one's physical and mental health. It has been linked to increased chances of cancer, cardiac issues, immune disorders, and high blood pressure. Moreover, women who experience the loss of a mother are more likely to binge drink, have a greater decline in self-esteem, and a lower level of personal mastery (personal growth) compared to men.
Grief that impairs daily functioning or persists for longer than a year may require the support of a mental health professional. If extreme grief persists for more than a year or interferes with daily tasks, speaking with a mental health professional may be helpful. Thankfully, resources are available right now for those experiencing overwhelming grief or considering self-harm or suicide. These include the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, Crisis Text Line, and Befrienders Worldwide.
Local support groups, online chat forums, and mental health professionals can provide assistance during the grieving process. For those seeking solace in literature, books such as "Healing After the Loss of Your Mother," "Motherless Daughters," and "How to Survive the Loss of a Parent" may offer comfort and guidance.
In addition, focusing on happy reminders such as pictures, books, or keepsakes can provide comfort during the grieving process. Honoring a mother's memory can be personal and might include donating to her favourite charity or achieving a goal she always wanted.
It's important to remember that maternal figures can be found beyond biological mothers, and seeking their support can help retain feelings of guidance and understanding. Books like Caroline Wahl's "Windstärke 17," Julia R. Kelly's "Das Geschenk des Meeres," and Annie Ernaux's work reflect on the loss of a mother and offer insights into the emotional struggle and therapeutic support through new relationships.
In the face of such loss, it's crucial to remember that you are not alone. The American Psychological Association's Psychologist Locator can help find a professional specialized in grief recovery. By seeking help and support, you can begin to navigate your journey with grief and find a path towards healing.
